At first the girl W said she was desperate looking for a place for a short stay and later she want to store her personal luggage. I always thought helping others comes much important than everything else but I didn't really know where the boundary is until I created this awkward and embarrassing situation for everyone. While I have caused this unpleasant experience, I am now able to see where I went wrong. I shall always carefully understand and observe the Utown policy. I believe this incident also allow me to learn and prevent similar issue in the future.
On 1st August she found a house outside the school .She thought i‘t too expensive for her ， so she asked me to move out with her.I agreed with her，and checked out the room in school，but a bout 14th August ，I realized that the house which she wanted to rent is illegal, we cannot put our luggage in our room,so I went back on my word and decided not to cancel my accommodation in school, but she moved out .From that time she become not friendly ,but she told me she had to store her personal luggages in my room . I don't agreed,but she said she will give me some payment(A) in return,and borrowed me her Bank card to pay my accommodation fee,then I paid back the money to her.(now I realize it's also a mistake,we don't write anything to prove I give her the cash) After that she was so unfriendly that she had quarrel with my roommates when she came to read books or do something else in the daytime. In 21th August evening，she told me she could live with someone else and asked me to pay off the money.The next morning,she came and took away her things and told me she don't want to give me the payment(A),which we had a deal earlier.I only wanted to talk with her,( i have class in the morning) but she threat me she will go to find the office if I still asked her for the payment(A).I'm angry with her threat.That’s why I quarrel with her,then she went to the office.
I am extremely sorry for my action.I realized I am in singapore ,because we have different culture that we have different point of view . Confucius said give a hand to the people who was in need is more emergency than what are you diong now.So I will help her at first.I hope you can understand that I‘m make a mistake with good intentions.
Hello Chen Si,
回复删除I am sorry with your unhappy experience here. I respect you for for not avoiding the problem nor purely blaming the other party for this unpleasant experience. You are doing great! :)
Perhaps you can tell her you are unhappy that this thing has come in between you both but highlight to her that you were trying to look for a better solution to this problem. Let her know that you are aware of some mistakes you might have made and explain to her that she is not completely right too. This might defuse her negative emotions and at the same time acknowledge her that there are different ways of seeing things.
Hopefully this incident did not hold you back from helping others in the future. I think we will just have to practice effective communication skills next time when we lend a helping hand to avoid similar conflicts from happening again. Let's work together! :)